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You Want What Is Best For Your Children?
you want what is best for your children? Of course you do. You love
them. You seek their happiness. You plan and prepare for their future.
But, if you really want that which is best for your children you must
raise your children in accordance with those principles laid down
in the Word of God.
wise man wrote, "Train up a child in the way he should go: and
when he is old, he will not depart from it" (Pro. 22:6). The
simple lesson of that text is just this - Good training, as a general
rule, has good effects. The text does not promise salvation as the
result of good training. But it does promise that, in the general
course of things, a well-trained child grows into a responsible adult.
you would train your children well, YOU MUST TRAIN THEM IN
THE WAY THEY SHOULD GO. NOT IN THE WAY THEY WOULD GO. Our
sons and daughters are born with a decided bias toward evil. If we
let them choose their way, they are sure to choose wrong (Pro. 22:15;
29:15). If we would be wise, we must not leave a child to the guidance
of his own will.
YOUR CHILDREN WITH LOVE, PATIENCE AND TENDERNESS. I do not
mean that you should spoil your children. But, I do mean that you
should let them know that you love them. Love is the secret to proper
training. Nothing will compensate for the absence of love and tenderness.
Anger and harshness will frighten a child; but they will not persuade
the child that you are right. If your children see you often out of
temper, they will soon cease to respect you.
YOUR CHILDREN TO BE INDUSTRIOUS AND RESPONSIBLE IN LIFE. Life
is not all fun and games. Children need to be taught responsibility
the earlier the better. TRAIN YOUR CHILDREN WITH LOVING, BUT
FIRM, DISCIPLINE. Determine to make your child obey you.
It may cost you much trouble and cost him many tears, but it will
be best for the child. A loving parent will see to it that his children
are obedient (Pro. 13:24; 19:18; 25:15; 23:13-14; 29:15-17; Heb. 12:5-11).
firm and earnest in disciplining your children. Do not punish them
rashly, or in anger. Do not use abusive words with them. Such things
only create hostility. Use the paddle. Use it sparingly, but use it
firmly. A loving, but firm use of the rod is essential to the proper
training of children.
TRAIN YOUR CHILDREN WITH A PRIMARY CONCERN FOR THEIR SOULS. If
you love your children, think of their souls. In every step you take
regarding them, in every plan you make for them, and in every decision
you make which concerns them, ask yourself one question, "How
will this affect my child's soul"?
MORE, TRAIN YOUR CHILDREN WITH THE FIRM PERSUASION THAT MUCH DEPENDS
ON YOU. You cannot convert your children. You cannot save
them. You cannot train them up to be Christians. And you cannot change
their hearts. But you are the one who molds your child's character.
And you do it, for better or for worse, in his earliest years.
you have done the best you can, you cannot save your sons and daughters.
"Salvation is of the LORD!" We must teach
them well, train them well, and call upon the Lord in their behalf,
seeking the mercy of God for them. We must commit our children into
the hands of God. Having done that, we will rest in submissive faith,
trusting the Lord our God to accomplish his own purpose and grace
in Christ Jesus, for the glory of his own great name.
offer these thoughts to you who are believing parents, with the prayer
that they may be of help to you, as you endeavor for the glory of
Christ to train up your children in the way they should go.