By Don Fortner
What is it that
every woman wants and needs from a man? I know that we are living
in a day, which promotes masculinity among women and femininity among
men. And we are beginning to reap the consequences of that foolish
trend in society. Our society has produced a generation of effeminate
men; and no woman wants such a man for a husband. She will neither
respect him nor obey him.
EVERY WOMAN NEEDS AND WANTS A MAN WHO IS A REAL MAN.
The Word of God makes it very plain that a woman needs a man upon
whom she can depend, a man to provide for her, a man to protect her,
a man to love her, and a man to rule over her. It is the responsibility
of every husband to rule and govern his household for the glory of
God. Such a responsibility requires firmness and manliness. It does
not require harshness and severity. But, it does require firmness.
A man can be gentle, loving and tender, and still be firm. A husband's
word must be law in his household.
EVERY WOMAN NEEDS AND WANTS A MAN WHO IS DEPENDABLE.
Your wife needs to be able to depend on you. It is not possible for
a woman to respect a man who is lazy and irresponsible. She needs
to know that you will provide for her and your children. She needs
to know that you will protect them and take care of them. If you will
show responsibility, reliability, dependability as a man, it is very
likely that your wife will give you the respect, which a man should
have. If she can count on you through thick and thin, she will.
EVERY WOMAN NEEDS AND WANTS A MAN WHO IS GENTLE, TENDER, LOVING
AND THOUGHTFUL. These things are in no way contrary to manliness.
In fact, they are essential to true manliness. It is commanded, "Husbands,
love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself
for it" (Eph. 5:25). Women need sexual attention and gratification
every bit as much as men do.
Men should make it their business to be thoughtful, tender, and passionate
in making love to their wives. Probably, most men need more instruction
in this area than women do. Usually men are shamefully selfish sexually.
They seldom make love to their wives. But, this thing of tenderness,
gentleness, and thoughtfulness goes far beyond the bedroom. It extends
to every aspect of family life. I cannot imagine any excuse for a
man neglecting his wife. It is inexcusable for a husband to forget
his wife’s birthday or their anniversary. But, men should be much
more thoughtful than that. It is amazing how far an unexpected flower
arrangement goes toward making a woman’s day, or a gift of any kind,
small or great, just something to let her know that you thought of
This is what I am saying, BE A GENTLEMAN, courteous,
thoughtful, and caring. Women love affectionate words, thoughtful
gestures, and special attention, almost as much as men do. In your
speech and in your actions be tender, thoughtful, loving, and gentle.
I am sure that your wife will respond favorably to it.
These three things every
woman wants and needs in a man: FIRMNESS, DEPENDABILITY, and
AND TENDERNESS. No woman wants to be married to a bully or
to a sissy. But, I have never yet seen a man who was firm, dependable,
and tender fail to win the respect of his wife and children. If you
are a good husband, it is very likely that you will have a good wife.